Listening Style Quiz

1. When someone speaks to me, I mostly focus on:
What they really mean beneath the words (Active)
Their emotions and body language (Empathetic)
Whether I agree or disagree (Evaluative)
Just letting them speak without interrupting (Passive)

2. When listening, I tend to:
Clarify and summarize what they said
Mirror back how they feel
Judge whether their point is valid
Nod and stay quiet

3. In conversations, I usually:
Ask questions to understand more
Show concern for their feelings
Mentally prepare my response
Let the other person speak as much as needed

4. If I interrupt, it’s usually to:
Clarify or ask a question
Offer emotional support
Correct an error
I rarely interrupt

5. What best describes my listening during conflict?
I listen to understand all sides
I tune in to emotional tension
I listen to defend my stance
I stay silent to avoid escalation

6. I’m most often praised for:
Asking thoughtful follow-ups
Being a safe, understanding listener
Giving honest feedback
Letting people talk without interruption

7. In group settings, I:
Facilitate clear communication
Pick up on emotional undercurrents
Focus on evaluating opinions
Stay in the background

8. I view listening as:
A tool for learning and clarity
A way to build human connection
A step toward forming my opinion
Something I do automatically

9. After conversations, people say I:
Helped clarify their thoughts
Made them feel heard
Challenged them to think
Were just easy to talk to

10. I most want to improve my ability to:
Focus and clarify meaning
Deepen emotional connection
Listen without judging
Engage more intentionally